Boundaries
Who determines boundaries? Who decides what's appropriate for someone elses comfort level? If you put 99.44% of yourself out for public consumption should you expect everyone else to do the same? If you hold 1 thing/subject only sacred and that subject is respected by people around you who you know and who know you then shouldn't you respect other peoples boundaries regardless whether or not you think they're reasonable?
Evolving In 2008
Evolving In 2008
Boundaries are not always the issue, but how you deal with someone you feel has crossed those boundaries. Why make an already tense situation much more inflammatory by yelling or scolding them as if they were a 5 year old? I would imagine you would get the opposite of your desired affect. I mean, especially if this person is a friend. Would you really automatically assume that they crossed the boundary on purpose? (I'm not asking if you think they crossed it or not, but if they have, do you think they did it intentionally?) Hmmm, maybe that person isn't as good of a friend as you though... or maybe he just made a mistake. Either way, yelling at him IN HIS HOME probably wouldn't be a good way to resolve the issue. He might seem a little closed off after that. Just my humble opinion.
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