I just heard the ladies on The View discussing a Hot Topic and Whoopi Goldberg's response to the subject sent me to the moon.  A little background, Barbara was discussing her interview with the new First Lady of France, Carla Bruni, and the nature of her relationship with the President of France was addressed.  Allegedly Carla and the President began their romance while he was still married.  When Barbara asked Carla did that make her a party to adultery her response was no because SHE wasn't married.  Well of course this sent the ladies into overdrive and Joy, Sheri and Elizabeth all agreed that all parties involved in an adulterous affair are wrong, Barbara and her cheating self said nothing, and how could she, she just admitted in a book that will be around until Jesus comes back to get us SHE WAS THE OTHER WOMAN back in the 70's!  Well Whoopi, one of my all time favorite entertainers take on the situation was if the married man is inviting approaching and inviting you in then he isn't happy with his current relationship and that the unmarried party is not wrong!!!  Now Whoopi was referring to men, the other ladies quantified their stance by saying were talking about men but they were talking about men and women.

I agree with Joy, Sheri and Joy, even if one party is single and they KNOWINGLY begin a relationship with a married person (male or female, no gender bias here) they are wrong too!  I stand behind that position based on years of second hand experience through friends and relatives ( I have NEVER been in a relationship and this is one reason why, Junior High School lunch table tales of infidelity screwed my take on relationships up at 12 years old). When people cheat for some reason they view themselves through rose colored glasses and are magically able to justify being the other man or other woman and in all fairness I understand the appeal, it's flattering for a someone to risk ruining an established, legal, moral and in most cases familial relationship.  I stress I don't agree but for the same reason the police have to think like criminals to understand and solve the crimes you have to think "whats attractive about cheating/adultery".  Now, what I've always found wildly amazing is when I ask someone "what if he or she cheats on you" or worse they he or she CHEATS on the CHEATER, thats when it gets interesting.  NOBODY likes to be cheated on but a majority can justify cheating.  There is only one situation where I see and escape clause, boyfriends and girlfriends.  If a boyfriend or girlfriend cheats on you have options because the relationship is not as formal or binding as a marriage.  I'm not condoning a boyfriend or girlfriend cheating but I'd rather be cheated on by one of those than a spouse, lesser of two evils.

Am I judging, ehhh, tell me you're cheating on your husband or wife or with someone who is married and I will get quiet  for about 10 seconds, I'll be praying not to be judgmental, because the truth is we all judge. Tell me you're cheating on a boyfriend or girlfriend and I'll ask you why or are you unhappy and tell you to use this as an opportunity to re-evaluate your feelings and the relationship before you take the leap. 

Bottom line, if you cheat with someone who's married, YOURE WRONG, WRONG AS THEY ARE, WRONG AS ALL HELL! 
These opinions goes for me too, I don't see myself through rose colored glasses, just Versace sunglasses!